I recently read and was inspired by Dr Brene Brown’s book Daring Greatly on her research into shame. In the book She says:
“Shame needs 3 things to grow exponentially in our lives: secrecy, silence and judgement”
In the aftermath of leaving an abusive relationship there are lots of feelings and emotions that arise and certainly shame is high amongst them. How could I have let this happen to me? Being an abused wife does not really fit the idea of who I thought I would become, although it is definitely not the end of the story! I certainly experienced lots of secrecy, silence & judgement perpetrated by myself as well as others. But I think accepting the situation and talking about this may offer some sort of healing for me and bring more understanding for others to hopefully avoid these types of relationships.